Before You Get Married You Need To Be Able To Say “No”

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It may seem counter-intuitive but a successful marriage is predicated on your ability to say no to your spouse. Before you seek out a wedding venue is Salt Lake City take this message to heart. It might just save your marriage.

Do you ever find yourself in the position where a person asks or expects you to do something you don’t want to do but you end up doing it anyway? If so, do you find yourself becoming resentful with that person? If you answered yes to these questions you need to learn how to say no.

If You Can’t Say No You Become Resentful

I used to work in an office. I became friendly with a co-worker and we started going to lunch every day. After a while I began to feel obligated to go to lunch with her. I felt like if I got up and went to lunch by myself I would somehow be insulting her or hurting her feelings. So for a long time I went along with this situation. It was easier just to maintain the pattern than it was to stand up for myself and say I did not want to do this. But over time I found myself becoming resentful. At first I noticed I was becoming annoyed with her. Little things she did like flicking her pen started to irritate me. Later on this developed into anger. At the time I did not make the connection between not being able to say no to her and this irritation that was developing.No

Finally the resentment and the irritation reached a point where I just started going to lunch on my own. It felt wrong at first. I felt like an anti-social jerk. But after a while I noticed that I was becoming less annoyed and resentful with her. Gradually I began to make the connection that this resentment was directly related to my inability to say no to her. Even though my no was sort of passive aggressive at first it allowed for the space for the tension to release.

If You Can’t Say “No” You Can’t Say “Yes”

From there, over time I began to feel more entitled to my right to say no to things I did not want to do. True, there are obligations in life and I am not advocating saying no to everything you don’t want to do, but if you can’t say no at least some of the time you will never truly be able to say yes whole heartedly. You will only say yes grudgingly and with resentment. When you are able to say no and own it, that is feel entitled to say no without worrying so much about hurting someone’s feelings (this comes with practice) then you have the space to pick the things you really want to do and then say yes with your whole heart.

On an airplane they instruct you to put on your own oxygen mask first before you put on the oxygen mask of a child. To someone who is afraid to say no, this instruction might strike them as selfish and wrong. But if you don’t take care of yourself first you may be able totake care of other people in the short run but not in the long run.

Having the ability to say no is particularly important in a marriage. In a successful marriage you will likely be living with your spouse for many years to come. If you cannot say no to your spouse you will become resentful and irritated and the relationship will break down. But more importantly, if you cannot say no to your spouse you can never really say yes because the yes will come from a place of obligation and will not be whole hearted.

Finances and Marriage

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Before lookingMoney for Wedding Venues in Salt Lake City couples should discuss their finances. Because one of the most common topics married couples fight about is money. As such it is important that the bride and groom discuss their finances honestly before they tie the knot in order to avoid larger problems down the road.

Honesty

It is most important that the couple is honest with each other. Any secrecy regarding finances in a marriage is deadly. For example, say one spouse runs up a few thousand dollars in credit card bills behind the back of the other spouse. This will cause tension for the spouse who has to maintain this secret. This tension will inevitably be felt by the other spouse causing further tension and resentment. Once the secret has been brought to light, addition resentment will result and regaining the initial trust will be difficult and perhaps impossible. It is far easier to be honest from the beginning and proceed from there.

Make a Budget

This honest discussion should primarily involve making a budget. Figure out how much income is coming in and how much expenses are going out. Then determine how much discretionary income remains and how it will be allocated. How much can be used for purchases? How much should be saved or invested? If the couple intends to have children money should be saved for their education and other expenses. Some thought should also be given to retirement. The earlier investment begins the longer time the money will have to grow.

One or Two Incomes?

Today it is common for both spouses to be employed and have two sources of income. If this is the case, one arrangement that can potentially ease tension is to maintain separate bank accounts and have each spouse be responsible for different household expenses depending on their income. If only one spouse is earning income then there will need to be a discussion about who will keep track of the finances and how will both spouses have access to the money.

Credit Cards

It is also important to discuss credit cards and how much debt the couple is willing or able to incur. Certainly, the less debt a couple incurs the better because interest payments will eat away at future income in a way that might not be immediately apparent. As such credit cards should be used with caution and vigilance.

It is important for couples to discuss their finances openly, honestly and on an ongoing basis. Ideally this discussion should start before the marriage begins to avoid problems in this potentially dangerous area.

Do You Have the Temperament to Start a Home Based Business?

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If you are thinking of starting a home based business in the Salt Lake City area or anywhere else there is one basic question you need to consider before determining your business’ legal structure (LLC, S Corp etc.), obtaining a tax identification number, registering for state and municipal taxes and obtaining the proper permits. First you must ask yourself if you have the proper temperament to operate a home based business.

What Type of Business Do You Want to Start?

The type of temperament required will depend a great deal upon the type of business you want to create. Some businesses simply require a phone and a computer to operate. Other types of business require space for storage, equipment and employees. If you have limited space will you be able to deal with cramped quarters?

Will your business require employees? If so will you get annoyed by having your employees working in your home in and around your personal space? If your business is just you and requires your presence in your home will you be okay with staying in your home (the same place you eat, sleep and relax) for extended periods of time alone? Will you go stir crazy? If you have family members or roommates not involved in your business will they get in your way or distract you?

Solutions

If any of these questions give you pause you should take time to consider them. You may not have the temperament to jump into the deep water of starting a home based business right off the bat. If you think you do not have the proper temperament but you are still committed to starting a home based business, there are possible workarounds. Perhaps you could rent a low cost, basic office space. This will give you the space and variety of experience you might need to keep your home and work life separate and preserve you sanity. Another option might be to try working from home in smaller doses at first to see if it is for you or to see if you can adapt.

Starting a home based business is a serious undertaking especially if this business will be your primary household income. This article is not intended to discourage you from starting a home based business if this is really what you want to do. Rather, the intent of this article is to tackle these potential pitfalls before you start so that you optimize your home based business’s chances for success.

 

Get More Business By Going Digital

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Go for digital menus6 Reasons to Switch Your Menus to Digital Menus

Digital Menus are quickly replacing the conventional menu and for great reasons too! There are a lot of different benefits for using digital menus. Here are 6 reasons to switch your menus to digital menus.

  1. A way to go green. With the world’s focus on “going green,” business are looking for ways to help the environment. One of these ways is by replacing paper menus with digital menus. Paper menus need to be updated and recycled frequently whereas a digital menu lasts for a long time.
  2. Quick Meal change. Many restaurants offer different options for breakfast , lunch, and dinner. A fast food restaurant has to manually change the paper breakfast menu quickly when the breakfast is no longer served. This can happen at a very busy time of day and at an inconvenience. When a restaurant has a digital menu, it only takes a click of a button from a secure internet location to change a breakfast menu to a lunch menu.
  3. Easy to update. Menus may need to be updated frequently due to price change or due to new items offered. By using a digital menu, these changes can be made quickly and efficiently. Another benefit to using a digital menu is that if an item is sold out, it can be changed as needed.
  4. Regulation changes. Due to new laws being made, restaurants are required to post nutritional information such as calories, fat, sodium, and allergy ingredients. These changes can be made using a digital menu and allows you to abide by the rules easily and effectively.
  5. Eye-catching graphics. Many digital menus offer high definition videos and pictures that grab the attention of their customers. A person is more likely to purchase a food item if they can see it close up in a video as opposed to a picture.
  6. Emergency Information. Digital menus can be used to alert the public if there is an official emergency situation such as an amber alert or severe weather warning.

From easy menu changes to displaying emergency information, digital menus offer many benefits to both the customer and the business. They are highly effective and are growing in number. Paper menus are becoming a thing of the past due to the advance in technology.

Weber State University Housing -Tips for a Safer apartment or home

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Whether still living at home with parents, in a college apartment like, Weber Apartments, or in your own home, it is important to consider the home’s safety. Lou Manfredini, who is a home safety expert, recommends these easy inexpensive tips for fortifying your home.

Simple Precautions can make all the difference in an emergency

It is important to not only have a smoke detector in your home, but it is also important to install a carbon monoxide detector as well. It’s recommended that both devices be on every floor of your home or in the major rooms of your apartment. It doesn’t matter if they’re installed up high or closer to the floor. Experts just recommend that each device’s batteries be checked at least twice a year and be completely replaced at least every seven years.

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Carbon monoxide is a deadly gas you can’t see or smell

Carbon monoxide is one of the leading causes of accidental  death in the United States. Carbon monoxide is a deadly gas that  is produced from common household appliances such as non- electric heaters, motor vehicle exhaust, smoke from fires or fireplaces, and other engine fumes. It is dangerous because you can’t see or smell it.
Placing a fire extinguisher on every floor of your home is another way to make your home or weber state apartment, safer. There are many different kinds of fire extinguishers so it’s important that you invest in the right kind of extinguisher.

 

Picking the Right kind of Fire Extinguisher for your Apartment – Harrison Housing

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Fire extinguishers are divided into four different classes. A class “A” extinguisher should be use for ordinary combustible materials such as wood, paper, and some plastics. Class “B” extinguishers should be used to put out flammable liquids such as gasoline, grease, or kerosene. Class “C” extinguishers are used on any type of electrical fire, while class “D” extinguishers are used to smother any type of chemical fire.

Living in a Colder Climate?

If you live in a colder area, installing a freeze alarm and water alarm might be a good idea. Experts recommend these types of alarms to help in detecting any drop in temperature or water leakage. Many of these types of detectors can be programmed to call and notify the homeowner in case of any abnormality.

Placing Night Lights throughout your home is another way to keep your home safe

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Another tip for keeping a safer home is as  easy as purchasing and placing night lights  throughout your home or apartment. For  those with families with young children, it is  important to place them in major hallways  and bedrooms. They can also be helpful in  dark closets to increase visibility and help to  prevent falling objects. Night lights are fairly inexpensive with prices ranging from $4 to $15.

All of these simple tips will help keep any apartment (Weber State Housing) or home a safer one. Smoke and carbon monoxide detectors will not only keep your home safe, but will also provide different health benefits. Keeping the recommended fire extinguisher in the home can help prevent small house fires. A safe home is a happy home.

5 Things You Should Ask Before You Rent An Apartment

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Most people will end up utilizing an apartment some time in their lives. With such a universal occurrence, most people never really think too much about it until it’s time to get one. From New York City apartments, to Weber apartments and those in LA, people all over the country, and really all over the world find themselves utilizing apartments. With that in mind, here’s 5 things that you should ask before you rent an apartment!

  1. Decorating

Can I decorate? Most people love moving into a new place and making it their own by painting, wallpapering and hanging pictures. This could make for a slight problem if you’re one of these people, as most apartments would have been freshly painted/decorated ready for a new tenant. Even if it hasn’t, it’s worth asking before signing anything as some landlords will charge you for anything other than normal wear and tear, such as holes in walls made by nails, stains on carpets, etc.

Make sure to check with your landlord to pre-approve any decorating before making any modifications to your apartment.

  1. Pets

Depending on where the apartment complex is located and how much land there is nearby can determine on whether or not you’ll be allowed certain pets, if any at all! Dogs, even though they’re man’s best friend, can cause a stir in apartment buildings, especially if you can’t be there with them 24/7. Barking and whining while you’re gone and not having an open back yard can lead to some accidents.. Causing stains and odours, not nice for your many neighbours! ..Or a happy landlord for that matter!

Some strict landlords may only allow you to keep a small fish tank for example, although some are quite open with pet allowances as long as you are reliable and can keep them tame.

It’s worth double checking, in case you get visitors that bring their pets for a night or two, or if you have or decide to get a pet yourself.

  1. Breaking the lease

Most leases are set for around a year, give or take and longer or shorter period of time if you can negotiate. Even if you’re happy in a steady long term job, you never know what will turn up out of the blue, leaving you stuck when you have no choice but to relocate. Before signing anything, make sure to ask about any penalties there are for breaking the lease, making sure to get them in writing! Verbal agreements won’t be applicable.

Some landlords will make it easy and let you give a 30-day written notice to vacate, but with this you could expect to forfeit your deposit, pay an amount equal to one month’s rent, pay a pro-rated amount of turnover costs, and pay for any damage or wear and tear done.

  1. Parking

Usually you’ll find that you will be assigned a parking spot, although if you’re a relatively sociable person that likes to host gatherings, it could be difficult finding parking spaces for them. If you’re lucky, the complex may have reserved guest parking. It’s best to query about where guests are able to park their vehicles, especially if it will come about often.

  1. Affording the accommodation

This is the biggest question you should ask yourself. You need to get out a pen and paper and crunch some numbers, time to start budgeting! Experts advise that people should spend no more than 35% of their wages on housing expenses. You may think this is no problem, but there’s so much you forget to take into account. There’s rent for a start, water rates, central heating/air conditioning, electricity, food, cable, car expenses – insurance, MOT, fuel, etc.. (Or travelling expenses), phone bill, the list really does go on! Plus, it’s always good to save a little back for emergency repairs and luxury items that you absolutely can’t live without! – Maybe it’s time to find a roommate?!

 

All in all, finding the perfect apartment isn’t as easy as it looks. But as long as you know what you’re looking for, your living boundaries and what you’re willing to give up, you can make it easy for yourself. For more information, you can also check out apartments.com and their many resources on finding the perfect apartment. Good luck!

 

Having a Home Recording Studio Via Your iPad or iPhone

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music-recording-studioThe iPad and iPhone have continued to grow in usability as well as productivity and they have continued to become only more and more powerful and mobile. With that in mind, the iPad and iPhone are very capable of being used to create your own home recording studio. It doesn’t matter if you want a very professional sounding recording or are going after a more amateur one, they have apps and external devices for both. Here’s some tips on how to make your own recording studio using your iTech.

  1. Level of quality. This is where you need to start Are you going for a full-fledged recording studio sound and capability or for a more amateur – get the recording done and out of the way – focus? For instance, if you want to simple record a story for your child, that’s far different than if you want a full optimized recording of your bands demo and will create a different path which you’ll want to pursue in regards to how to setup your recording room in the house, which apps you would want to pursue and which external devices you may want.
  2. mzl.qmeueahx.350x350-75After you have determined the quality you’re going to target, the next step is to determine the software/app you’re going to utilize. Some of the best apps for a home recording studio are as follows:
    1. Garageband – This one is a little more fully featured – allowing you to record audio and edit it, add music beds and post/upload to iTunes, Soundcloud, Facebook, YouTube, etc.
    2. Music Studio – Heavy duty app with a lot of extensions and the ability to add-in a mic and plug-in recording options for a very solid digital audio workstation.
    3. BossJock Studio – The perfect all-in-one app. This one has gotten better throughout the years. This app allows, recording, intros/outros, bumpers, background music, file imports and has automatic ducking (background music becomes softer when you push a button to talk)
    4. Music Track DAW – This may very well be one of the best multi-track recording apps in iTunes as it can easily record 4, 8, 16, and 24 tracks simultaneously with lossless interface for some exceptional mixing options.
    5. AmpliTube – Another great mixer – although there are a lot of extra costs with this one. It does provide an easy interface that most musicians will be very comfortable with, but if you want the extras, you’re going to have to pay for it with this one.
    6. StudioMini XL Recording Studio– This one is a solid, straight forward multi-track recorder that is easy to use with a familiar interface similar to ones seen on desktop applications.
    7. Studio Track – Basic and easy. Focuses on 8 track recording and keeps it very clean and intuitive. Doesn’t have all the bells and whistles as the others, but it does provide ample features to do most recording studio endeavors.
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  3. After you know the quality level you’re targeting and have the app, you can now pursue the external add-ins. Mostly this comes in the way of mics and instrumental plug-ins. If you were to visit Blue House Productions, a recording studio Virginia, you would see top of the line, high dollar mics. But they have to have the best in order to be the best. You may not be after that level and cheaper mics may work well no matter if you’re in Washington DC, Maryland, New York or Caifornia. Here’s a cross-section of popular mics that you may want to choose from.
    1. CAD U37 USB Studio Condenser Recording Microphone
    2. RODE IXY
    3. Apogee MiC for iDevices
    4. Zoom iQ5 Stereo mic
    5. The Belkin iPhone Boom Mic

With the right recording apps, the soundboard you’re looking for and a good mic, you are ready to use your iPad to create your very own home recording studio. You can find any of the apps right at iTunes. Go out and have some fun mixing up some new music for your friends, family, and maybe even the world!

 

Getting The Right Apartment Pet

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petsMost people living in apartment situations do not get to enjoy the perks of having a furry companion around. Many landlords and leasing companies do not want to deal with the potential damages caused by pets. Furthermore, there are insurance reasons to consider. For example, if you are renting an apartment for 12 months with your dog, who is to say that the next tenant will not be allergic to dogs? Even so, with a little know-how, even a perpetual apartment inhabitant can enjoy a furry friend.

Weight Limit

Many apartments that permit pets still enforce a weight limit. The weight limit is usually 20-30 lbs. This equates to a cat or a small to medium sized dog. To be the devil’s advocate here, it actually shows an interest in the animal’s welfare, to limit the size of the pet. A large dog would not really have the lifestyle support it needs in a small apartment. Just think of a mastiff with no yard to run in, bumping into the coffee table every time he wants to take a little circular walk to make his bed comfy.

Allergies

As mentioned before, many people rent apartments with pet allergies. Some progressive apartments complexes have separate wings or floors for pets. This is similar to smoking and non-smoking floors of a hotel. The proactive way for a tenant to negotiate the allergy argument is to get a hypo-allergenic animal. Some popular hypo-allergenic dog breeds include:

  • Bedington Terrier
  • Standard Poodle
  • Bichon Frise
  • Irish Water Spaniel
  • Chinese Hairless Dogs
  • Kerry Blue Terrier
  • Labradoodle (Lab and Poodle cross)
  • Maltese
  • Portuguese Water Dog
  • Schnauzers
  • Soft-coated Wheaton Terrier

Hypoallergenic Cats

There aren’t as many options in the Cat family but there are still a few:

  • Devon Rex Cat
  • Sphynx Cat

Size and Apartment Amenities

It is important to be familiar with your apartment’s amenities and layout before getting a pet. Some things to consider would be: Is the apartment near a busy road? Is there a fenced grass area? Are there appropriate dog walking areas within a reasonable distance? Are there other pets? How big are the rooms in the apartment? And so forth. Being considerate of your pet’s needs should be a top priority.

Great Container Garden Ideas

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Container gardening has tons of benefits over in-ground gardening. With a container housed plant, you have the freedom to move the garden to sun, shade, or wherever you like. You also get more control over the contents of the soil. Container gardens keep pests away from your plants much more reliably than traditional in ground garden set ups as well. Save money when you use recycled items to house your plants. Pretty much anything can become a glorious habitat for any plant. This article shows you some beautiful and unique container garden ideas that go above and beyond your standard container garden.

Budget Containers

Looking to save money on your garden? By using items from around the house, or the thrift store, you can easily set up a productive garden, with just the cost of dirt. Some popular containers for gardens include:

  • 5 Gallon Paint Buckets
  • Pallets
  • Old easter baskets
  • Egg cartons
  • Boxes

With any container, make sure you can drill or poke drainage holes so you don’t swamp your plants. Always line the bottom with some sort of porous material like large pebbles. Then put your garden soil on top of that. This increases drainage and won’t rot your plants.

Unique Containers

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An old desk can be painted and planted.
Shoes can be repurposed to hold plant babies.
Shoes can be repurposed to hold plant babies.
Egg carton
Egg carton
Bathtub art garden.
Bathtub art garden.

 

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